This book is brutally honest and that is a good thing. I think it has a lot of good advice in it. She also helps to make you not feel so guilty. I don't know why but some black women (me included) feel like we are "in the closet" about admitting we like white guys too. We are afraid of being found out and I think white guys pick up on that too. But she gives you specific how-to's and I love this book. I have highlighted so much and will continue to refer back.